Love is a Decision

Many people do not see why a person would have to make the decision to love since they made that decision many years ago when they said yes to one another on their wedding day.

It is normal in married life to have periods of romance and disillusionment. This cycle is often repeated – sometimes over days, weeks, even months.

Breaking out of Disillusionment by Making the Decision to Love
One way to break out of disillusionment is by deciding to love. Feelings change and aren not easily controlled. Love is not only a feeling, it is more than a feeling. Love is a decision.

* Love is a decision to be open and to share when you don’t feel like it.
* Love is a decision when you don't think your spouse deserves your love.
* Love is a decision means that you are open to honest communication with your spouse. That's not only talking, but also listening.
* It is also a decision to be loved.

Making the decision to love includes the everyday, little things that you often do for one another, especially when you’re not feeling loving.
From the action of deciding to love, often the feeling of love will follow.

What Love is a Decision Means in an Abusive Situation
Making the decision to love doesn't mean you love and accept negative or abusive behavior.

If your spouse is abusing you, either emotionally or physically, making the decision to love is getting out of the abusive situation.
Often times, making the decision to love is getting help for both you and your spouse.

Source = HERE.

You are Loved

I posted this for a special someone (just a little reminder) - they know who they are. xx

Dios es amor...

"Dios es Amor" means...
"GOD IS LOVE."

Do you love Gay people?

This is a LOVE issue.



Here are some questions to think about from the video:

* Do you treat gay people with hatred?

* When someone doesn't believe with your Christian world view, do you become unloving?

* When you stand up for what you believe in, do you still love?

* Do you judge and condemn people outside the Church?

* Do you love people who believe differently to what you do?

* Do you love like Jesus?

The Catholic Church holds that, as a state beyond a person's choice, being homosexual is not wrong or sinful in itself.
But just as it is objectively wrong for unmarried heterosexuals to engage in sex, so too are homosexual acts considered to be wrong.

We should still love the sinner....Jesus is in everyone.

There is a world dying out there...
Would you rather be RIGHT or offer them LOVE?

Love The Sinner And The Saint Within

From: Bo Sanchez.

We’re tempted to only see the sinner in us.

Remind Yourself That You’re A Saint Within (story from, Chicken Soup series).

One day, a teacher asked her students in class to write the names of the other students on a piece of paper. “And leave space between each name,” she instructed.

When they finished, the teacher said, “Underneath each name, I want you to write the good things you see in that person.” Immediately, the kids busied themselves with the task and took the whole class to finish it.

The teacher took the papers home and collated the material. On one piece of paper per child, she wrote all the positive qualities written by their classmates.

On the next class, she handed out the papers to the kids. They were very happy to read the letters. “Wow, am I really this person?” some of them gushed.

Many, many years later, the teacher received a phone call. One of her former students, who had become a soldier, was killed in battle. Would she want to attend the funeral?

She went and saw many of her former students condoling with the bereaved family. As she stood beside the coffin, looking at the lifeless body of a young man in uniform inside, a middle-aged woman approached her. “Are you my son’s grade school teacher?”

“Yes,” she said, “you must be his mother. My deepest condolences.”

“I’d like to show something to you,” the mother said. “My son had this inside his wallet when he died.” She pulled out a worn-out piece of paper. It was obvious that it had been folded and unfolded many times.

Even before it was opened, the teacher already knew what it was. It was the piece of paper that contained the list of positive qualities his classmates saw in him. Kept and read all through the years.

By that time, her other students had gathered around both of them.

A young man beside the teacher said, “Uh, I carry mine wherever I go too.”

A woman from behind said, “I still keep mine. It’s in my diary.”

Another man said, “I display my list on my desk at home.”

Another woman said, “It seems like all of us kept that paper all these years!”

The teacher was moved beyond words.

Why would a simple piece of paper mean so much?

Because here’s the truth: Life can be rough. At various times, it can even be cruel. Every time we fail, every time we receive criticism, every time we get rejected, we doubt our worth. We doubt our goodness.

We are very desperate for love.

We need to love the saint within us.

Friend, love yourself.

Each day, celebrate your positive qualities. Celebrate your goodness. Celebrate your beauty.

Thank God for how wonderful He made you.

7 Things I Love Meme

Molly has generously tagged me for this meme. Thank you so much, and I will do my best.

1. I love family - esp my husband + children.

2. Holidays - especially the beach.

3. Warm weather + the Sun!

4. Chocolate, curries, licorice, coffee, roasts, fruit.

5. Swings + Hammocks.

6. Fun/scary rides at theme parks.

7. Nature, silence + God:)

Learn to love yourself

A talk from: Bo Sanchez - How To Get Rid Of Bad Habits Now! Love The Sinner And The Saint Within. Love Yourself.

Don’t focus on your addiction.

Because when you focus on your addiction, you end up in despair.

And despair is the end of the road.

Like Judas, many people commit some type of suicide. They may not kill themselves physically, but in their despair, they kill their dreams, or they kill their relationships, or they kill the blessings that God wants to give to them.

You need to acknowledge your addiction (don’t deny it), but you don’t have to meditate on it. Your eyes should be on God’s love for you.

Focus on God’s dream for you instead.

And you can do that if you love yourself.

Loving yourself means loving the sinner and the saint within you.

You’re a mix of the good and the bad, and you need to love that mix.

Unless you love yourself, you jump from one Hidden Addiction to another.

Unless this happens, your addictions may never go away.

When we don’t love ourselves, our love tanks cause painful emotions to rise. So we may stop one addiction only to replace it with another, perhaps a more hidden addiction.
I know of some former drinkers and smokers who, after removing these vices, unconsciously replaced them with more acceptable addictions, like workaholism and religious legalism, or a food addiction or TV addiction.

If you want to get rid of a destructive bad habit, you need to love yourself.

How should you love yourself?

How should you love the saint and sinner within?

Let me share with you four powerful ways of loving yourself that will change your life forever:

1. Forgive Yourself

2. Accept Your Weaknesses

3. Feel Your Feelings

4. Trust Your Needs

I will share these with you one by one - in my next post:)

Love

Our human nature indicates to us that love is nothing more than an emotion.

We make decisions based on our emotions, and some even get married because we feel "in love."

The Bible teaches us that true love is not an emotion that can come or go, but a decision.

We are not just to love those who love us, but we should even love those who hate us, the same way that Christ loves the unlovable (Luke 6:35)

For more go HERE.